Things NOT to say or do to a pregnant lady!!

Why you ask did I do this? Well my sister and I are both pregnant almost 7 months along, and Both of us have heard most of this (I have received some from other ladies and the internet) and yes half of the stuff had made us cry and NO NOT BECAUSE WE'RE HORMONAL. its hard giving up your body for 9 months to create life, but we do it because we WANT the baby!


I WILL KEEP ADDING ON IF I THINK OF MORE IF ANYONE ELSE AS ANY IDEAS

-"No matter what shirt you wear you'll still look big"
-"Are you sure there's ONLY one in there?"
-"You look like your ready to pop"
-"Oh! How cute your waddling"
-"you are HUGE!"
-"Wow your finished eating already?"
-"OH! you gained how much?"
-"You should really watch your wait or you'll never be able to lose it"
-"How are you feeling?" (How do you think we feel? We gain tons of weight, have cankles, a double chin, morning sickness and constipation! But hey thanks for asking!)
-"It only gets worse"
-"Wow you really are eating for two!"
-"When you throw up please be quieter!" (LORI AND SAMANTHA!!!)
-"Your spier veins are SO GROSS!"
-"Awe your face is getting rounder!"
-"You look 11 months pregnant!"
-"Are you sure you want to eat that? You've already eaten quite a bit" or "You're still hungry?"
-When the woman is close to her due date don't say, "You haven't had the baby yet?"
-When the woman voices a concern about her weight gain don't say, "Maybe you should work out."
-"You're only (blank) months along! Wow! You're pretty big!"
-No pregnant woman wants to hear about how hard your labor and delivery was. I'm sorry it was difficult for you but it's not the best idea to share your scary story with a woman about to give birth.-If you have easy pregnancies, it's probably not the kindest thing to do to rub that fact into the face of someone who is going through a horrible one.
-When your five or six months pregnant don't say "oh, I didn't realize you were pregnant! You can hardly tell!" (Yeah, I am not normally so freakin' fat! And all in one place!)
-"did you swalow a watermelon for lunch?"
-"is this your first?" (What kind of question is that? When it IS your first they goo over you, but every kid after that it's like, "oh, I see." What the heck?)
-Camielle-"wow your getting big"
-"you haven't had the baby yet?" (OBVIOUSLY NOT!!!)
-"Should you really be eating/drinking that?"
-"Was it planned?"
-"Are you going to have anymore babies?" (Hello let us get through this one first!)
-"I only gained ___ pounds when I was pregnant."
-"Is your back hurting you already? That's not good."
- "You're only ten weeks pregnant?" [points to my stomach] "Oh, so all that is yours."
-"You're quitting work already? Why?"
-"Are you going to keep it?" (hello personal)
-"Are you sure you can afford a baby?"
-"I"ve never had morning sickness" (well lucky you!)
-"How much weight have you gained?" (yes because we like sharing that!)
-"You should really try not to eat so much while pregnant"
-"If you go into labor being nervous its just going to be worse" (I'm sorry weather your pregnant or not I still don't think ANYONE should say this.)
-"Oh i'm so glad you told me you were pregnant, I was afraid to ask..."
-"Right now the baby is only 3lbs, so you if you feel uncomfortable just wait..."
-"I'm not poking you I'm poking the baby" (HELLO!!! the baby is in MY body)


HUSBANDS WHAT NOT TO SAY TO YOUR WIFE!!!- I got this off line haha
1. "I think cankles are sexy. "Insulting and sarcastic, this one will cost you. For those of you who aren't familiar with the term cankles, it is when a person's ankles are as wide as their calves.Calves + ankles = cankles.
2. "Those stretch marks will go away, right?"Women loath stretch marks and are sensitive about them. You'll probably never see her naked again.
3. "I'm not going to buy you new clothes if you keep outgrowing them."Her credit card will probably start smoking soon from overuse during a spite-inspired shopping spree.
4. "Wow, that woman looks great for having two kids."You don't say that to a woman who isn't pregnant.
5. "Why are you so tired?"She is going to tell you why. In great and graphic detail. She may use one of the pregnancy terms I mentioned before. “Well, maybe because my uterus is stretching to over 1,000 times its normal size!”
6. "What is wrong with you?"Have you spoken to a woman before? Do you never learn?
7. "Will you get me something from the frigde?"Unless she's within relative proximity to the refrigerator, any item she retrieves from there will be delivered at high speed and aimed at your head.
8. "You're starting to move like a [anything]. "Brace yourself, she will both hit you and cry, but not necessarily in that order.
9. "You're not as much fun as you used to be."This will go one of two ways, either silence or verbal tirade from her. Either way, don't expect to talk to her for at least another ten minutes. If it does go the way of the tirade, expect some more pregnancy vocab words.
10. "Are you really going to eat that whole sundae / sandwich / pizza ?"Don't make a fat joke. Don't make a fat joke. Don't make a fat joke. Just make sure you're not making her feel self conscious about eating and that she does get proper nutrition
11."Y'know, looking at her, you'd never guess that Pamela Lee had a baby."
12. "I sure hope your thighs aren't gonna stay that flabby forever."
13. "I finished the Oreos."
14. "Darned if you aren't about five pounds away from a surprise visit from that Richard Simmons fella."
15. "Fred at the office passed a stone the size of a pea. Boy, that's gotta hurt."
16. "Not to imply anything, but I don't think the kid weighs 40 pounds."
17. "I'm jealous. Why can't men experience the joy of childbirth?"
18. "Are your ankles supposed to look like that?"
19. "Get your own ice cream."
20. "Geez, you're awfully puffy-looking today."
21. "Got milk?"
22. "Maybe we should name the baby after my secretary, Tawny."
23. "Man! That rose tattoo on your hip is the size of Madagascar!"
24. "Retaining water? Yeah, like the Hoover Dam retains water."
25. "You don't have the guts to pull that trigger."


THINGS NOT TO DO TO A PREGNANT WOMEN!!!

-Don't touch, poke, or rub us, weather your family, friends or strangers! If you want to feel the baby kick let us then tell you its okay to touch us. Why do people feel that since we are giving life its okay to touch us? how about I touch you as much as I want?! thats what i thought.
-Men shouldn't .complain about any physical pain when they are around a pregnant woman. Period. Especially if it's only a headache
-Don't "try to wake baby" its not comfortable, its hard enough carrying life inside of you, if baby is sleeping LET IT SLEEP we'd rather not be kicked as much as possible! AND it's not funny if they kick something thats uncomfortable for us

Just an Update on the Barker family

Since its been awhile since I've blogged I guess I should update people. Lets see, currently Tanner and I are living with my parents trying to buy a house (which by the way is a major pain in the butt!!!) We had an offer in and was supposed to have the house close end of July, well it expired and so we would have to sign another contract, and so we decided to look at other houses to make sure that was the house we wanted well every house we loved that wasn't short sale would already be in contract and blah blah blah well our last offer on a house that wasn't a short sale ended up having more then one offer and we offered full price on the house but someone else offered more then the asking price. So now we have 3 houses that are short sales that we are waiting on 2 offers have been accepted by the owners not the banks so we'll just see how that turns out. Wish us luck because I'm really hoping we will have a house and be moved in before baby Joseph joins our little family.
Well these last few months have been crazy, my older sister Nikki got married so Tanner and I got to go to Denver which had its ups and downs, I for sure didn't get a lot of sleep and with all the work and walking we did I had NO ankles!!! But the wedding went great and Tanner got to see stuff from his mission. Unfortunately while we were there Tanner's Grandma passed away and so we had to figure out away how to get him off work while still in Denver and figure out how we were going to rearrange going from Denver straight to Utah since that's where the funeral was, it was a hassle but since we had a layover in SLC from Denver we just got off then and had the airport have our luggage off then. It all worked out we just stayed in Utah longer then needed and of course I had only packed long enough for like 4 days so I was always doing laundry, from the lack of sleep from Denver and the lack of sleep in Utah I ended up getting super sick so asking the in laws to be quiet Tanner and I went to sleep at like 7pm and I slept in until like 10 so the sleep was MUCH needed. Anyway besides the fact that we were in Utah for a funeral we did have a good time with family. The funeral was beautiful and well put together. Well we finally got home Sunday after being out of town for almost 2 weeks I was relieved but once home I got horribly sick again (morning sickness) and once I started throwing up blood my ob FINALLY gave me morning sickness pills! They help so much. Well we did have plans to go back to Utah the next weekend for Tanners brother and sister in law to see them get sealed :-) but since Tanner had to take off so much work that wasn't planned he wasn't able to get it off and so we stayed.
That weekend however was our Anniversary on August 9Th! We have been married for 1 year! We stayed Saturday night at the Grove hotel. We went and saw Ice age 3 and then went to our hotel. We took a nap and once again morning sickness killed me and so instead of going down to the restaurant we did room serves which I had never done so it was exciting, and they had GREAT food. Well Sunday being our anniversary we just went back to my parents house (since we didn't want to break the Sabbath too bad) we read and rested and just spent time being us. Well Monday guess what? I started going into premature labor! I swear I thought at first something was exploding in my stomach but calling my OB they thought I may of pulled a ligament or something but after hours of it lasting I called again telling them no better they told me to go to the Labor and birthing floor in the hospital and they called them to let them know I was on my way. After 3 hours of frequent contractions 2 shots and a pill they sent me home since I was dilating at all and told me if it got worst to go back. I was up until about 3am with them but they finally stopped and I was able to sleep. I was pretty sore the next few days but I'm fine now and the baby is 100% okay! That's all that matters.
Well now we're here at my parents waiting for a house and waiting for the baby and I'm NOT patient. Tanner starts school full time next week as well as working full time so his days go to work and his nights go to school. So my weekdays will eventually just be me and Joseph. It makes me sad, I'm going to miss Tanner SO much, and I worry about him burning out, but he thinks he'll be okay so I'll try my best to make sure to make life at home as simple as can be with a baby. Well I'm not going to bother with pictures this time but here's our life from now and hopefully we'll have more updates about a house SOON!

It's a BOY!!!

Well after the longest month of mine and Tanner's life we just found out yesterday that we're having a boy! (sorry Aubrey for taking your birthday fame!) But we are excited. I had seriously thought i was having a girl but I'm very happy about our little boy! Little Joseph Paul Barker!

This is called the "diaper shot" haha can you see how you can tell where the boy is? ;-D and my sister thinking she was having a boy found out she's having a girl! there we go, looks like we were both wrong, but we are still VERY excited!

Pregnancy

It's been awhile since i've blogged, i'm almost 16 weeks, and about to go to my 4th OB appointment monday :-) and then 4 weeks after that i FINALLY find out what i'm having :-D yippy!!! this is from my last appt. and my ultra sound he wasn't going to do one, but he couldn't find the heartbeat just trying to listen so we did an ultra sound, it was just lower down. (thank goodness i was almost in tears when he couldn't find the heart beat) It actually looks like a baby!!! Tanner is afraid of the face though he says it looks scary haha. My sister Nikki is also Pregnant and only 6 days behind me, she's in town this week for my sisters graduation. She kept whinning that she was bigger then me blah blah blah blah, yeah we measured i'm bigger then her, i'm just taller so i don't show as much as her.
It's way fun having both of us pregnant. i just wish she didn't live in CO. :-( oh well... (I'm due Nov. 12th, Nikki is due Nov. 18th)

Mothers Day!!

We will always love our moms! They gave us life and have taken care of us! I don't think I ever realize how much they do for us once your not under their wing. even though my mom is still helping me out so much! ever since i've been pregnant I never dreamed how hard it would be to grow life inside of me, never dreamed how sick I could get. It wasn't until now that I realized how much my mom has done for me. my baby isn't even out yet and already I'm sacrificing so much for this childs life! and still even though I'm grown and married and about to have a child of my own my mom is still there helping me. she helped me last week clean my house since I've been so sick and haven't been able to keep up with it. she's always calling seeing how I'm doing she even bought me a ton of maternity clothes! I love my mom and I am so grateful for her. its weird to think now I'm a mom and will have to take care of my kids the way my mom did for me. yeaterday at church unfortuently I wasn't feeling good so didn't make it to the first two hours they passed out flowers (that my hubby made sure he got one for me) and a paper with it and I just found it amazing... many years ago the First Presidency issued profound and lasting statement, "Motherhood", they wrote "is near to divinity. It is the highest, holiest service to be assumed by mankind. It places her who honors its holy calling and service next to the angels. The true spirit of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints gives to women the highest place of of honor in human life. To maintain and to merit this high dignity, she must possess those virtues which have always, and which will ever, demand the respect and love of mankind... because a beautiful and chaste women is the perfect workmanship of God. " -the First Presidency

Awe, the joys of pregnancy!

I'm almost to my second trimester! I really hope that means no more morning sickness! I've yet to go a day with out throwing up. but some days are better then others. they days I can't seem to keep anything down I hate so much! it makes me really worried for the babies sake. but thankfully that's only about once or twice a week. my sister is only a week behind me and not as bad as I am. I think she's lucky :) this week however has been the worst. I babysit two girls and one has had a headcold or flu or something. anyway I ended up getting it. of course this happens the weekend hubby leaves town so not only am I sick I'm missing my other half like crazy! I ended up just crashing on my parents couch to sick to do anything. I finally caved and called my ob who got me a anti biotic but I still have a really bad cough my ribs hurt so bad from it. my mother in law is just the sweetest thing! she knows how sick I've been and for the life of me I can't even get strength to clean my own house. Tanner helps a lot. but its my job. I just feel bad. and taking care of two little kids isn't easy. so my house is a mess and I'm always saying sorry to tanner and he just says "all I want is a happy healthy wife" but still. my mother in law is more then willing to do anything she wants to come help clean but I just feel awful I can't even ask but I love her to death and I'm so grateful for her! on other news. as of may 15th I won't be watching the girls anymore. but tanner is set in his ways that he doesn't want nor needs me to get a job so i'll be free to clean all then. and make dinner nights for me are so bad I haven't been able to really cook. but hopefully this will change it all! my mom is going baby happy! she has made so many baby blankets for both boys and girls and she's so sweet she is also making me maternity close. I have a nice little belly and can barley fit in any of my regular shirts. its hard knowing I'm getting fat and can't do aything about it. I look forward to giving birth and getting back in shape!

Pregnancy!!!

So before we got married Tanner and I decided we were going to wait at least a year to try having kids. we just wanted to be us. well so much for that one I'll tell you what! haha about 2 months later i just felt that need of "i need to be a mommy" but Tanner and I talked and decided we'd still wait, but more and more I was just being hit with that impression we needed to start our family. I'd be sitting at church and see little babies and just get so upset. :( Finally Tanner gave me a blessing since i was struggling so much, and that did it for him we then decided we'd start our family. however it ended up taking us 5 months to get pregnant, and month after month i just found it harder and harder for me. But i was blessed!!! when i took a test at six in the morning when i read the yes i just couldn't believe it!!! I just started yelling Tanners name and woke him up from a nice sleep and showed him i even cut my leg on something running to him haha. but i was just oh so excited!!!

But what drove me crazy is the doctor won't see you until your about 8 weeks. so April 6th Tanner and i both went to the appt. and they said "this will be the longest appt. because of all the tests" we were done in 30 min. but we saw the baby in the ultra sound and oh my goodness seeing the little thing was just so amazing and the heart beat and hearing it i was almost in tears!!!
In the Ultra sound picture it just looks like a peanut, but it didn't while watching it. i can't wait to see it grow!!! but i for sure have morning sickness! I throw up almost every morning and every night. my back is always killing me. but it'll be worth it in the end. even though i did tell tanner the next one he gets to carry. :D haha but what i find amazing and really fun is my sister NIkki is pregnant also :D I'm only about a week ahead of her. i'm due Nov. 12th on my sister Samantha's birthday and Nikki is due the Nov. 18th. even though i really doubt we'll give birth those days :D i am just so excited for this blessing even if i do feel sick all the time, and want to sleep all the time. i feel bad when i get sick on Sundays since it basically just kills me Tanner ends up going to church himself. but lucky the Miamaid is amazing and is always willing to teach my girls when I'm not capable of teaching. But hopefully now that I'm almost to the 10th week it'll calm down at 12 weeks. I'm only hoping. Tanner and i are SO excited for little Lucy Anne Barker or Isaac Tanner Barker. Even though we both really feel it to be a girl but I'll find out when i can no chance I'm waiting until this baby is born!